CougarPeasant wrote:

Dude, you got totally slammed. I feel for you and been through a tough break up too. I can definitely commiserate.

Just one thing, forgive her and move on. She's his problem now, not yours. You might even send him a gift thanking him for taking her off your hands and saving you even more heartache.

Here is the thing man, at some point she is going to come crawling back -- probably when she realizes she doesn't want to raise this kid on welfare for the rest of her life.

She'll come back to you because you are a responsible guy doing something with your life.

When she comes back (and she will, I promise), you have to be strong enough to say "hell no." If you decide to take her back (which would be a very unwise decision) please understand that she was a cheating lying ho before you got married to her, and she'd be a cheating lying ho after you got married to her.

Fact is, she stopped respecting her. Don't take her back, no matter how much she begs, pleads, or guilt trips you. Cut it off completely man.

I feel for you. Good luck. Pick-up a meaningful hobby and give real service. I promise you that you'll find someone much better.

Seriously guys thank you so much! All of your advice I truly believe is going to help me move on from this heartache. A little bit each day the pain dulls a little more... I feel for anyone that has ever dealt with stuff like this, It is hard to get over but I know that God is helping me each day.

Everyone that is dealing with the pains of divorce and other hardships, my heart breaks for you all of you. I wouldn't be able to handle that...

I appreciate all of your comments, insights, and support...it means a lot!

Cougfan84 wrote:

Last night my girlfriend of 4 years (2 years dating, 2 years writing while i was on a mission) broke up with me...She is pregnant from some stupid chump that I actually know...Freakin' Tore my heart out...

Haha sorry to give you my sob story but thats why i said some dumb things on here last night, I was still blowing off steam...So if i said anything to piss anyone off I fully apologize. I freakin' put a hole in my wall, broke everything she ever gave me and full out lost it last night...then a few hours later I got online to study for my Calc 2 and Macroeconomics finals and decided to come on Cougarblue and that was a mistake, I said some dumb things. But today I let a cooler head prevail and came on to just talk sports as my get away from it all.

So I apologize for anything dumb I said last night, I was just mad at everything and hated everyone...i'm sure some of you have had some crappy times like that.

I need to stop feelin' sorry for myself cuz so many people have it so much worse than me, but the girl I was gonna propose to this summer to be my wife freakin' knocked the wind right outta me and tore my heart out... (I guess better she did this to me before we were married right? I gotta look at the bright side)

I know this is a sports page but does anyone have any good stories of when they got cheated on or whatever and how they got over it...I need somethin' funny, spiritual, anything...cuz i'm strugglin' right now really bad...

That "blows", I had the same thing happen to me while I was still on my mish, I couldn't think straight for a week. I thought my comp handled my situation pretty well, he took me over to the temple and it was then I realized that girl wasn't the type of material that really wanted what I wanted out of life and it put a different perspective on the girlfriend/wife requirements, we all have different values that we want in a companion and she just didn't meet with my "wish list" of qualities that I wanted. I ended up with the girl of my dreams and 10 kids later we're still in love. I'm only saying, the best person for you is still out there looking for what you bring to the table and she'll be ready to "stick" with you and no other.
I get that life now sucks, but there's always tomorrow.
I feel for ya.

Rackem'

I know this is a very painful time for you, for her, and for anyone who loves either of you. There are five steps to grieving: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. You should expect to experience them all. Don't get stuck. Go all the way through to acceptance of what has happened and let it go.

You may ask how that is done. Family, friends, and ecclesiastical leaders can help. Counselors may be useful.

Please remember something a former member of my stake presidency taught me. The Atonement not only has the power to remove burdens placed on us by our choices, it also has the power to lift the burdens placed on us by others' choices. The trick, in both situations, it to let go completely and hand it over. Best of luck in doing that.

Just a small FYI to ya'll. O'douls has a "some Alcohal" in it. Othewise it would be next to the coke products instead of in the beer isle.
If your looking to "keep the word of wisdom" then O'Douls is not a smart choice.

As far as your previous relationsship.... All I can say is I know how you feel. The same happened to me in fact. Dated a girl for 1.5 yrs, was planning on getting married, we had some ruff times where we simmered the relationship down, it was then that she went and slept with one of my friends... Then "she came crawling back to me" I loved her so I let her back in my life, 3 months later she is prego with another guy.... She ended up marring the guy(why??) and yrs down the road she is divorced. Me; it took me awhile to get over it. I worked myself crazy, found a healthy past time( running marathon) and am now married to a wonderful women who is 1000% times better than my 1st love.
So my advice... Think long term. It's better to get out now. She was NOT the right one for you. Better for you to figure that out at a young age instead of later with kids maybe? There are many fish in the sea, you just have to be patient and look hard and you'll find someone better, that I can promise you.